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HOW TO GET INTO A BDSM SCENE? THE 3 BEST WAYS EXPLAINED

Have you ever struggled to get into a BDSM scene?
Well, doubt no longer as Daddytime, an experienced Master who is married to his Sub for a total of 21 years, will explain you his personal tricks and tactics, on how to get into a BDSM scene.

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BDSM and the three tactics I prefer, to get into a BDSM scene

When I first started out in BDSM after studying and watching videos and realizing that what I saw on video’s and read about I had been doing naturally for years I had a false impression that it revolved around just pain. I did not have a teacher or some great Master Yoda of the BDSM world to guide me it was all trail and error.

As a matter of fact we all know that (or eventually will realize) BDSM is very mental, much more than physical. I frequently mention my tactics in groups posts and frequently have many instantly negative responses and/or negative reactions to my ideas.

Recently in a subspace group chat I had these types of responses from (super subs) mostly who felt I had no idea what I was talking about. I will admit of course I do not know everything and I am always learning more and each submissive will be completely different in response to tactics or training or what’s required in a BDSM scene etc. A good Dom will understand this and make the adjustments.
To get into my tactics that work for little b and help her to relieve her stress in general and get her into subspace I live by three very basic tactics.

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Tactic 1 to get into a BDSM Scene: Some sort of pain

This will always be different for each Submissive type. The pain level for one sub may be too little or too much for another; this is where a good Dom will make adjustments it could be that pain is caused by other means than whips, floggers and paddles etc. For example my favorite is the stress position. Typically as you can see in our videos little b is in some kind of stress position. This by itself causes a type of pain physically and/or psychologically. If you have not tried stress positions,  use caution and consent, and of course experiment and see what effect it has on your sub.

Tactic 2 to get into a BDSM Scene: Apprehension

This is that feeling of butterflies in your stomach, that feeling of not knowing what is going to happen. Many Dom’s and sub’s will have a discussion before a scene discussing hard and soft limits they can review their contract together before play starts etc. We do not do this because I know little b and her limits and she knows I respect her boundaries and safe words.

To create the apprehension that little b will feel before and during the scene I take a more psychological approach. In preparation for the scene she is not allowed in the playroom as I prep and position all the items that will be used during the scene. When she is told to come to the playroom she will walk by and see all the devices I have put out for the scene, as she is strapped in or tied into place before the blindfold goes on I will break out the plastic bag (breath play) or an evil looking whip etc just to amp her up a bit.

A majority of the time these items will not be used but on occasion (to keep her guessing) they will be. Obviously the items used are within her limits and safe words are always respected. I also prefer to keep the playroom a little cooler than normal as once the scenes get going she heats up a lot.

Tactic 3 to get into a BDSM scene: fear

The most controversial and the one that I am frequently attacked by super subs about. What most ppl seem to misunderstand is that I am not talking fear for your life. Some semblance of fear, fear of the unknown (not knowing what will happen during the scene) Psychological fear, standing behind her and letting her hear the swoosh of the crop or whip in the air and telling her soon you will know what pain is etc.

For us getting her to sub-space requires a fight or flight response apprehension and fear mixed with some form of pain like a simple stress position or some crop or paddle work on her ass and thighs. Little b is not a pain slut so it does not take much. Another way to get her into her zone which I use frequently is orgasm torture this also works very well but requires a good eye and feel from the Dom to know when enough is enough.

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